Lowering the standards. Shutting bedroom doors. Those are musts around here! I have 9 kids (7 in the house) and homeschool so totally understand the chaotic mess of large family life. Wouldn’t trade it for the world, though my sanity (and pride!) is tested more often than I would like to admit.
Wife and mom first. Writing, homeschooling, Muay Thai, and BJJ fill in the rest.